It's annoying and hurtful. My ex left me and my son when we sound out our son had autism and mild retardation. It took me years to get a divorce. But my grandmother is big on cards and celebrating things and when we were separated for about 7 months our anniversary came up and my grandmother was going to send me a happy anniversary card. My grandfather asked her if she had lost her mind. She was only trying to show her love and support and we had only been separated for 7 months. Grandpa was looking out for me if he could he would have tried to knock some sense into my ex husband.

Anyway I agree with you and it's frustrating and annoying.