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Old Dec 30, 2015, 07:22 PM
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Originally Posted by Myrto View Post
Yes. It's a boundary you don't encounter in English as there's only one way to say "you" but in my language (like many other languages) there are two ways: the polite ''you" and the casual "you".
I used to address her with the polite form and she did the same with me until one day she asked me if we could switch to the casual "you". I said no. It was too weird. I couldn't do it. It was one thing for her to use the casual "you" with me but for me to use it with her was absolutely impossible. It was my boundary.

So I refused altogether. She's never brought it up again and we've sticked to the polite form. Which is better I think.
I'm assuming like "tu" and "vous." If we had something like that in English, I would DEFINITELY be using "vous" with a T.

I guess as far as MY setting boundaries go, if there's something I don't want to talk about, it doesn't get talked about. My T also encouraged Emails more often than I felt comfortable doing....so I Email when I want to, and not when she wants me to. That took a little getting used to though, as I did want to "please" her....
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