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Originally Posted by Helpbegood
Thank you Simone, i appreciate the telephone number. He is most definately a narcissist, the last time 2x I tried to take the kids to my mums he wouldn't let me leave and tells me he's here for the kids and I am taking them away and being manipulative. You can't reason with unreasonable. Today, I managed to get to mums as he was out. This will only be temporary though, I will have to go home and that's where I will have a problem I think as he has nowhere to go. Everything you are all saying is right and I know what I need to do now, it's getting worse as the years go on and it's not fair on any of us. Thank you for your support.
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If you can get him to leave the family home so you can move back in with the kids, then all the better. He may never allow that to happen. It may take courts deciding on division of assets for there to be any kind of fairness when it comes to housing. Consider going into the housing that DV services can offer you. They may not be ideal, but they are safe. Having somewhere to live that he can't find you during that danger period when you first leave is something you should seriously consider. I can't stress enough, that when you leave, the period immediately after is when you are most at risk. Don't underestimate his potential to harm you or the kids. You may think he never has before, so he won't now. Leaving changes everything. I'm saying this because I have been there with a narcissist and have had numerous professionals in the fields of psychology and child protection tell me the same thing.
Now is when you are most at risk.
Please take care and let us know how you get on.