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Originally Posted by LookingforCalm
You're afraid of him, aren't you?
I'm so sorry. Is there anyone that can help you when you talk to him?
I really am sorry for what you are going through, and this guy has completely taken advantage of your generosity and is now causing you to question yourself as to what kind of person you are. Don't go achangin', love.
This guy deserves nothing more from you. Just be firm that you cannot help him. You just can't. It's sad, but he will find someone else to mooch off of.
Unfortunately, I've been in this situation. I dated a guy like this. He took and took until I said no more. And I still stand by it.
It's not bad to be generous. We all misjudge people. But if you feel you are being taken advantage of, listen to your gut. It's taken me a long time to trust mine, too.
Good luck and I hope everything works out.
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Yes, I am kind of scared of him because he is more aggressive than I am. He seems to think I owe him and has almost made me believe I owe him when I know I don't. He over powers me verbally all the time and is even nasty to one of my dear little birdies. I have told him to leave the bird alone. He hasn't touched him but tries to intimidate him and calls him names. I am the one who hears it, the bird doesn't understand what he is saying. Anyways, he is not good for me. I have been very lonely and have drank with him at times. He knows I am lonely and has said to me that he will keep me company while I drink with him. As if he is doing me a favor. He talks badly about most people who have been very good to him so I don't doubt it that he may talk about me in a bad way, too. I have typed up a letter to him. Now I'm going to try to get my nerve to send it to him. Thank you for your message.