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Originally Posted by rainbow8
I wonder if I found a partner who would satisfy me emotionally and physically, would I be able to finally quit therapy? I don't know if that will happen, but I was thinking about it. I use T to meet those needs, but if I had a real person, it's possible I'd be satisfied. Or, are the childhood unmet needs still going to be an obstacle? I don't expect anyone to know the answer, and I'm not ready to look for a man yet, but I did start wondering about it.
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I hope you will be able to terminate therapy (as you do it atm), even if you don't find a partner. Hopefully those early needs will be met through therapy by building a solid foundation that you can feel safe and secure then take them over yourself. But that doesn't mean that we don't need or want another person in our life letting us know we ,stater to them. I believe mother love and romantic love are intertwined. But, I certainly don't want a parent in a romantic relationship.
In the mean time that caring, that mothering comes from taking care of ourselves, soothing ourselves; a good book, a hot bubble bath, massage, a shared bottle of wine, weekend with friends...
And, if love comes, great!
P.S. And, if you want to stay in therapy that's okay too, but don't switch one for the other if your work is not done. My opinions only.