I agree that kids come first but only in regards to their health and safety. But it's different when kids are allowed to make relationship decisions. I don't think kids should be raised with the notion of they are the ones calling the shots in their parents personal lives.

Unless there is abuse involved I don't believe kids are to decide who their parents are with.

I think some people use it as an excuse to not proceed with relationship ( like oh my kids come first or I am too busy with school or distance is too far or my mom doesn't like you or i am too busy etc).

I think if someone is truly into me they wouldn't allow kids to make a decision for them. Now of course I am not talking about when question is about kids health or abusive nature of a new partner. I would jump in to water to save my daughters life but I wouldn't dump someone because she doesn't like him. Most people wouldn't ( unless they want out of relationship regardless).

I think if somebody is willing to dump me because their kids dislike me for whatever arbitrary reason or if they allow their kids make my life difficult, then this is the wrong person for me to begin with and I am better off.

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