> I think he feels the need to control the situation (me).

And it sounds as though you felt like your mother did things like that in order to control you :-(

I guess... That it is possible that your therapist feels the need to control you. But I guess... That it is possible that your therapist doesn't feel the need to control you, but that instead you are afraid that your therapist does need to control you (which is understandable given your past history with your mother).

The past... The present... The past... The present... I have a hard time figuring out which is which sometimes and figuring out whether my responses / reactions are appropriate responses to the past and / or the past and the present... It can be so hard sometimes...

> And I am reacting as though that desire to control is dangerous. Which it isn't, most likely.

I guess... There are times that controling another might be kind of necessary (making someone get out of a burning building, for example). Not letting someone get lost in the past which would be retraumatising and hence taking care not maintain an appropriate environment within a theraputic window, as another example. But then... I guess we don't know whether your therapist has the desire to control you or not (you would have to ask...) And even if he was... We don't know why unless you ask...

How does it feel when you think that he is trying to control you?

Do you feel mad?