It's scary. Ex-T seemed like the perfect T for me. And current T seems like a perfect T for me. So "red flags" go off. No one can be perfect. But closing myself off isn't going to help me. That's why I went back to therapy so soon after being abandoned. I needed the help. I had to force myself to be open to T. And I had to learn to give and take, and compromise. And it hasn't been easy. There have been a lot of bumps. But she's still here...and so am I. That says a lot, right?