People who've been victimized multiple times before tend to carry emotional residues that allow toxic people to be able to identify them as easier targets. That's also how a pattern of bullying can happen.
The only good solution I personally found to work is to get better at identifying toxic people than they are at identifying me, and to pre-emptively manage how I communicate with them. Ask yourself the hard questions about what others want out of relationships with you: sometimes you'll be pleasantly surprised, and other times you may find yourself seeing people in a different light and better off keeping them at an emotional distance.
You can still be cordial, or course. You know what they say: keep your friends close and your enemies closer.. 
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“We use our minds not to discover facts but to hide them. One of things the screen hides most effectively is the body, our own body, by which I mean, the ins and outs of it, its interiors. Like a veil thrown over the skin to secure its modesty, the screen partially removes from the mind the inner states of the body, those that constitute the flow of life as it wanders in the journey of each day.”
— Antonio R. Damasio, “The Feeling of What Happens: Body and Emotion in the Making of Consciousness” (p.28)
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