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Originally Posted by IrisBloom
There is nothing wrong with this lady not wanting to rear someone else's kids. It's not her responsibility or choice to be a parent. Even if she chooses to stay in the relationship with the father, the kids still won't be her responsibility. But they would be part of her daily life and having kids in the house definitely changes the dynamics of things. She is not harming the kids in any way and certainly not being selfish. I think she's pretty smart knowing what she wants rather than just taking whatever comes along.  |
No. If you ate to love the father you must love the kids. Any GOOD parent will tell you that.
Oh you want to be my boyfriend but could care less about my kids? Yeah no
Of course kids shouldn't decide who you date. If the relationship is healthy and loving then you know the kids are just conflicted and it takes time and commitment to work through it. But if you are jealous and show it of the time I spend with my 9 year old son that's a flag for me of dysfunction