Sometimes we have to have compassion for ourselves. Ignoring people could very well be compassion for ourselves.

Have I ever mentioned a phrase from a song that I use quite often when I'm having trouble? The name of the song is "I'm Free" by Jon Secada. The phrase is "Things are only as important as I want them to be."

If someone is taking the opposing side and gossiping about you, Bear, IGNORE THEM! Have a little compassion on yourself!

What the heck! Here's the whole song!

Do you see what I see
A rainbow shining over us
In the middle of a hopeless storm
Sometimes I'm blinded by my feelings
And I can't see beyond my troubled mind
Afraid of what I'll find
The story of our lives
But there's tomorrow.

Chorus
Cause I'm free, I'm free
And things are only as important
As I want them to be

We'll have a breath of sunshine
When the rain goes away
I pray, I pray.

Do you need a friend right now
In the road that you're going to
If you get lost just call me I'll be there
Yes I'll be right there
Cause though I may not have the answer
At least I know what Im looking for.

Yes I can do without sorrow
There's a day after tomorrow
So I'm leaving behind.

Chorus
I'm free, I'm free
And things are only as important
As I want them to be

We'll have a breath of sunshine
When the rain goes away
I pray, I pray.

And if you want to share my dreams
Well all you have to do is say it, say it
Let me hear you loud and clear
Cause I need you if you wanna be, if you wanna be.

Do you see what I see
A rainbow shining over us
In the middle of a hopeless storm
We'll be safe and warm.

Repeat chorus