I personally never wanted to marry a man with kids. Even if I liked his kids a lot. I pictured the future and how I would be helping him pay for his kids to go to college, and things like that. I ultimately rejected that picture. I didn't want to support someone else's child/children. I would rather have been single for the rest of my life. I know this will be an unpopular viewpoint with some people here, but I wanted to have my own children and not be a stepmother. I've known other step parents and it is a thankless job.

My Dad re-married and had a second family with a woman who had two daughters. Both were on alcohol and drugs. He is broke now because he helped his wife pay for rehab, over and over again, for her daughters, and now her grandkids are all on drugs too. Then one of the daughters wanted this big, very expensive wedding, and my Dad helped pay for that. All they do is take. My Dad is 79 years old and broke. He doesn't even have enough money to buy a cup of coffee.