Great idea to jot things down hon! It doesn't have to be in story form necessarily, but an outline of points you think are important and want to get out there to your T. Make a copy and give it to her so she can look at it with you. Together you can make a plan...not that plans are always engraved in stone, but a start is a good thing
When so much has happened over so many years, I'm sure that you have tons you want to get off your chest and out into the open.....it's natural to get a little tongue tied and for stories to take on a life of their own. Like I said, you will do just fine!!
xoxoxox
sabby