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Originally Posted by ilikecats
I drove past my T's house tonight. I'm pretty sure it was her house anyways. A few months ago I googled my T, and one of the things I found was what looked to be her address. I didn't do anything then, but I did think about driving past it. I kept thinking about it once in a while, and tonight I decided to drive past it. She's on vacation this week, so I knew I wouldn't accidentally run into her. Anyways, I feel a bit guilty about this, and I feel like I should tell her about it when she gets back. But I'm worried that if I do, she'll get creeped out or be angry at me. Maybe even stop seeing me? Or set more boundaries? I don't want that to happen, and if I don't tell her, it won't. But I just feel like I should tell her. I'm probably going to drive past it again a time or two before she gets back. It was nighttime when I went past tonight, and I'd like to see it in the day. I would never knock on her door or intrude on her while she's there, but I just like to see her house and see where she lives. Is this how stalkers start? I don't have any intention to stalk her, and I don't want to scare her or make her uncomfortable. That would be another issue with telling her. I don't want to make her uncomfortable, but if I tell her she might feel that way. But I just feel kinda guilty. But at the same time, it's not like I'm doing any harm, I'm just looking at a house. Gah! What should I do?
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Are you only driving by because you know she's gone? As in, once she's back, you won't? Perhaps it's just some sort of connection while she's gone. I drive right by my T's office occasionally, it's in a different city than me, but I have a few things out that way where I have to drive by. The first time I ever did, I actually had a truck and trailer with a horse in it, going to the vet school downtown. She was on vacation then...and I didn't expect it, but kinda felt a calmness, something satisfied, after I drove by. It's hard to explain. Her office is one of many in one building, and she has always told me, whether she's in town or not, I'm always welcome to hang out in the waiting room (if another T is there, otherwise the door is locked) anytime I wanted, whether I had a session or not. She knows I like to read...so she suggested bringing a book or something. Well, I never have....and probably wouldn't.... I'm in that building 3 to 4 times a week anyway (for either my therapy or my son's)...but there was one time after that "drive by" incident where I considered taking my bag of books and driving over there and just sitting in the parking lot. I never did that either, but it was a thought. Of course, this is my T's office, not her home. Perhaps that is what you're looking for. In which case, maybe you can get it by driving by her office instead. Although I'm guessing you are only taking advantage of her being gone, and you not being caught driving by. Hopefully it stops when she returns.