Yes, my therapist is male, but I don't think that's the issue. The issue has more to do with either being ashamed or having a topic that hurts too much to talk about.

He can probably speculate that I was sexually abused in some way, but I feel like he's not supposed to be allowed to ask. I have to be the one to bring it up.

I like the email idea. It might be useful not only for this topic but also anything else I want to discuss but have trouble bringing up