I have to run, but just had a brief comment on this.

When I finally told my current T about my old one (I don't know if you remember, but it took months and months), she made a comment about boundaries. She also teaches in the clinical psych graduate orogram at my university and has clinical psych interns under her. She said that one of the most important things about boundaries is for the therapist to remember that they're there mainly to protect the client and not the other way around. She said if one of her interns did what my therapist did to me, she would probably kick them outvof the program because they're putting the client at risk because of their own issues (although keep in mind that she works with a pretty severely ill client base at the hospital outpatient psychiatry so I guess a high risk population anyway). Therapy shouldn't cause you MORE damage, and boundaries should be there to protect you, not hurt you worse.

It really is a mindf*** and shaming to have someone change things and refuse to discuss why.