There is always the power to walk out the door (again, with the exceptions in my op). That's more than enough for me. I haven't had to exercise it with a therapist yet, but I have with doctors. No devastation involved - sometimes a bit of regret that I put up with whatever it was that made me walk for as long as I did, but that's it.

I am not sure what you mean by "the power they thought they did."