Ex T would make and break boundaries all the time. One time she offered me her cell number which I declined. I used to email as a way to get my thoughts out but asked that she not reply. She did frequently reply and then stopped after several months citing her boundary and explaining other clients didn't need email so why did I (which I had never asked her to reply and nor really wanted it)

This change was so shaming. She used to be open to calls if I needed and the abruptly changed that without telling me. Her boundaries were for her benefit to what ever suited her and the inconsistency made me crazy.

Current T and I haven't discussed boundaries. I don't want a single thing from her and I will never try to please her by following her rules. I have my rules and boundaries and I'm sure they are far stricter. For example she seemed open to emails if I asked, I didn't, it may be a great way for me to store my feelings but ill never make that mistake again.

I don't care what rules a T has as long as they are consistent.