Boundaries were never really an issue during my therapy (5 years with T). My T was almost always consistent, and willing to tailor many of her boundaries to the specific client at hand. She allowed outside contact (text/email), and I used it sparingly so it never became problematic. The only boundary I found a little confusing was that, when I asked about her boundaries around touch, she said hugs and sitting next to me were fine, but she would not hold/embrace me when I cried. I said "ok." But then, at least 2 or 3 times over the course of our 5 years together, she did (briefly) hold me while I cried. I did wonder if our definitions were different and it's not considered "holding" if it's so short, or if she was just acting on instinct in the moment and wasn't thinking about her boundaries and crossed them. Either way, she didn't cross MY boundaries so I was okay with it. And I never asked because I didn't want to seem nitpicky or accusatory, or cause her to tighten her boundaries. I was never concerned with her crossing my boundaries, only with me inadvertently crossing hers. But I never did.