I have had an on again off again relationship with my youngest son. When his mother and I separated I moved from Georgia to Illinois, he was 15 and given the choice to come with me or stay in Georgia. Since then he has always acted as if I owed him something because I divorced his mother. He has two daughters, 9 and 5. He has unbelievable expectations in order for him to let us see the grand-daughters. He believes we have to earn the right to become grandparents. wants us to call them every night before bed time. we are suppose to jump if he wants anything from us and visits are always at their house. I have been away in Illinois and California for the past 10 years, except for the yea in Iraq. So I moved 3000 miles to Georgia to be closer to him and his family.

On Christmas eve and Christmas day he had no time for us, but tells us he will see us on Saturday to exchange gifts. Around 4 o'clock no word from them, so I text to find out when he will be coming home. He text back and told me it would be around about 8 o'clock Tell him that's a little late for us and asked if when they were done at his wife's parents house just to come on by. So he text back and tells me to forget it and that every time we meet I cause drama. So I say fine will bring presents by and leave them at the bottom of the steps. When I get there he comes down the steps, opens the passenger door and throws a bag with our presents at me and I throw them back out of the car. He proceeds to tell me what a terrible parent and grandparent I am and tries to goat me to get out of the car. My wife gets back in the car and my son and his wife come to my side of the car still trying to get me to get out and fight. I start backing out of the driveway and my son throws our presents at the car. When we get home there is a dent in the hood and windshield side panel that is chipped. We go to the police to file a report for insurance, takes down our info and we are done. My son and his wife go to the police sometime after we did and says I tried to run his wife over and that's why he threw the bag, in "self defense". So mow he is wanting to press charges for terroristic threats, aggravated assault and criminal trespassing. We talked to the investigator and he believed us and recommended we go to the magistrate and request a hearing, which is what they would have to do as well.

what should I do?
1. File for the hearing
2. let the insurance company fight him to get the money
3. Eat the deductible and let it go