Do you feel nervous around your partner?Y-Y
Do you have to be careful to control your behavior to avoid your partner’s anger?Y-Y
Do you feel pressured by your partner when it comes to sex?Y-Y
Are you scared of disagreeing with your partner?N-?
Does your partner criticize you, or humiliate you in front of other people?N-?
Is your partner always checking up on you or questioning you about what you do without your partner?Y-N
Does your partner control where you go or check the mileage on your car?N-N
Does your partner repeatedly and wrongly accuse you of seeing or flirting with other people?N-N
Does your partner tell you that if you changed, he or she wouldn’t treat you like this?Y-Y
Does your partner’s jealousy stop you from seeing friends or family?N-N
Does your partner make you feel like you are wrong, stupid, crazy, or inadequate?Y-Y
Has your partner ever scared you with violence or threatening behavior?Y-Y
Does your partner throw or break objects to intimidate you?N-Y
Does your partner make you feel scared by driving too fast and refusing to slow down when you ask?Y-N
Does your partner say, “I will kill myself if you break up with me” or “I will hurt/kill you if you break up with me”?N-Y
Does your partner make excuses for the abusive behavior? For example: saying, “It’s because of alcohol or drugs,” or “I can’t control my temper,” or “I was just joking”?Y-Y
Does your partner brag about bullying or harming others or animals?Y-N
Has your partner abused or killed your animals?N-N
Does your partner impose stereotypical gender roles?Y-Y

Answered the Abuse checklist for him and me. It looks like mutual abuse, but not violence over jealousy as typical- it's all over our sexual issue.