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Originally Posted by BudFox
But that assumes one chooses to be dependent or not. Therapy can create strong attachment, and since early attachment is buried in implicit memory and cant be consciously accessed, the client might have little control.
I would also add that sometimes it's all about timing. Even the strongest person, given sufficiently devastating loss or illness or isolation, could become dependent.
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Actually, no. I don't assume one chooses to be dependent or not at all; I think that is something that happens in the course of any relationship and can't really be planned or chosen. But dependency can be healthy. Not all dependence is unhealthy. It just isn't that black and white. It is possible to have healthy attachment and dependence. So often those concepts are thought of as negative, but the hope is that we can learn in life that we can develop healthy attachment to people with a healthy level of dependence.