All good input! Thanks.

I wish I could say that there was some specific concern. When I mentioned not necessarily liking certain kink aspects, it's just that certain things are major turn offs. Nobody expects me to participate in these things, but they are present in other spaces at the same venue. I guess this is all very vague and this is helping me be more specific as I type, but essentially the sado-masochism part is what triggers me.

Sounds like I just need to connect with a smaller more intimate group or partners who are interested in similar things separately from the larger BDSM events. It is all new to me.

As far as munches go, I haven't been to one because everybody seems to be really into these more triggering things for me and I feel like somewhat childish and embarrassed that some of these things are major arousal killers. The few things I've been to have been pretty large adult events.

Thanks for the help.