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Originally Posted by ruh roh
I'm intrigued to see so many people tell a therapist not to touch them. Is this something a therapist would do on their own unless told specifically ahead of time not to? I had always assumed they would keep their hands and arms to themselves, so it never occurred to me to make this explicit at the start of therapy. I just can't imagine my therapist doing something like this, so is she not normal? Do they need to be told that's not okay?
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I'm sure most probably don't need to be told that, but I wasn't willing to take the risk that she was one of the ones that wouldn't need the limit to be set. Also, I know myself. I'm a people-pleaser. So if, in the moment, she offered to hug me or rubbed my back in a supportive way, I would have a hard time saying no even though it made me uncomfortable.
We did hug once though. She told me that she knows I do not want to be touched but normally she would offer to hug someone after a session like we had so I should consider myself emotionally hugged (or something like that). I decided to accept the hug but then I kicked myself for a week about how awkward it was and was afraid that now she would want to hug again. It was weird. lol
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