Quote:
Originally Posted by ruh roh
I'm intrigued to see so many people tell a therapist not to touch them. Is this something a therapist would do on their own unless told specifically ahead of time not to? I had always assumed they would keep their hands and arms to themselves, so it never occurred to me to make this explicit at the start of therapy. I just can't imagine my therapist doing something like this, so is she not normal? Do they need to be told that's not okay?
Mine works with a lot of s/a cases so maybe that has something to do with it? Just trying to get a handle on what that must be like to have to tell a therapist not to touch.
|
I set this boundary for my T pre-emptively. She gave me no reason to think she would hug me or touch me, but I wanted to be sure she wouldn't so I set the boundary before anything occurred at all. She too works with trauma cases a lot, but she replied that she was glad I told her what not to do because they can't read minds. She also admitted that she can be a bit touchy-feely, but she usually asks clients first anyway what their stance is on touch.