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Originally Posted by BuildABridge
I totally understand why he's acting that way.
You say he was "given the choice" to come with you. I think it's hard for a 15 y.o. to be put agaisnt the wall and made to chose between his mother and father. Not an easy decision for such a young person to make.
You also say "he has always acted as if I owed him something", but can you really blame him? One day you're his father, next day you just up and leave.
How old is he now? What happened in the years between when he was 15 and now? Did you always keep in touch?
That was my first thought. Seems like that's exactly what happened.
It's wrong to manipulate a son/daughter against his/her own parent, but we don't know the other half of the story and what circumstances led to the divorce.
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Called him as much as he would let me, flew them back and forth on school breaks and holidays. I moved but it wasn't all of the sudden he would only come see me about once every two months before I moved, wanted to spend all his time with his friends. Neither of us manipulated the kids against one or the other. He is however very much manipulated by his wife. I to this day refuse to discuss anything about their mother, it's their right to make their own opinions of their parents. I have tried everything I know of, I am at the point that I can't handle the stress anymore. I love my son and want to be part of his life, but at this point it's not good for my overall health.