I'm not even sure that a power imbalance in itself would mean that a relationship couldn't be healthy, helpful or healing. It's more a question of whether that power is resoected or abused.

I admit I gave away my power in that relationship, but I think im the right context it would have made me feel safer and more able to heal and regain strength and power in the world. I trusted her to guard it and protect me, and she didn't even try to minimize the harm.

So I don't even think a power inequality in itself is neccessarily harmful, but it *can* be.