so any which way I do the math I'm confused....you're 47 and your son is what? 25-29? Both of you became fathers at a very young age. From your other post, sounds likely you were doing drugs when he was young? You were partying instead of being a Dad. You are now going to pay for that, unless you get everyone into counselling. Drop the car thing, unless you like the drama and want it to continue.

You blame his wife, but where did SHE get the information that makes her dislike you? From your son!

Just my 2 cents, correct me if I'm wrong.