Yes, I did a lot in the beginning, I too grew up in an environment where feelings were bad and I was punished for having them. For me it turned into this: "Feelings are bad. And if feelings are bad, because I have so many feelings that I'm not allowed to have/talk about/express, then I am bad." It is only within the last year of therapy that I came to the life-changing realization that "Feelings are not bad. And if feelings are not bad, then I am not bad for having them and I never was." That was a huge day for me, one of those corner-turning moments of my therapy.
But even with that happening, I STILL have trouble sometimes with t trying to talk about certain feelings. It seems that it is very difficult work to change those core beliefs or whatever they are. Just last week I was trying to explain how I felt about something and I could not say what I was feeling I just couldn't.
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