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Originally Posted by monalisasmile
I have missed her all over Christmas and it's not getting any easier.
I miss the consistency with her. I seen her every week for what would have been two years in February.
Although new t is fun and exciting I still feel a deep loss and sadness with ex t. Despite all of her flaws and mistakes we did work well together for the most part.
I have only seen new t twice and I am considering not going back and calling ex t because I have lots of doubts and fears around new t.
I guess I am just confused about it all and wondering why this keeps happening. I can't always blame my ts, there are two of us in the relationship.
Any thoughts or comments are appreciated because I don't know what I need.
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Hey Monalissa
I'm really sorry that you're hurting. I think I can imagine how it must feel, I'd miss my T as well...despite the things that anger me about her.
I'm wondering if a part of you missing your old T is due to your uncertainty about new T. They seem to be very different, not that one is wrong the other is right but just really different. Could it be that new Ts style is so unfamiliar to you, causing you to question the therapeutic relationship that you have with her? Did you miss old T before beginning work with new T? I'm just pondering how I would feel if in your shoes... I would say allow yourself to miss old T and talk to new T about your uncertainty...see if there is any relationship to missing old T. And remember, if you continue to miss old T then maybe reach out if the longing doesn't get better😊😊😊