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Originally Posted by lolagrace
Other. First, the ability to depend on a therapist is not necessarily a negative. Over-dependence would be, but healthy dependence on someone in time on need is . . . Healthy. Thus, I can't say he encouraged dependence because the way you word this poll seems to see dependence as a given negative (perhaps I am misreading that though). He encouraged healthy dependence on him as needed; that ability to ask for assistance from others ( not just therapists) is an important skill.
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I never said depending on a therapist was a negative as a general proposition. I did not label dependence as good or bad at all - certainly that is being read into it by people - which is fine - but neither my intent nor by my words is it there. I am wronged on this. Plus there are enough references by posters about "therapist discourages dependence" - that I became curious at how people saw it with the one they hire. Based on your description - I would have guessed you voted encouraged - but if you chose other - I assume you see it as other.
Both of the ones I see have actively encouraged it (telling me to call them repeatedly at the end of each appointment, telling me I can schedule more appointments, emailing with there there out of the blue, berating me for not needing them etc). I don't want or need them in that way - I don't see it as healthy or unhealthy to do it - just that I have no use for it. I am interested in whether one sees the therapist as encouraging or discouraging it. That is all.