Hello,
I think that therapy is the key to make up your mind about the reason for your suffering. So I suggest that you work on that side. If you don't connect with your therapist, you should first address the problem in therapy: "I'm sorry docaator, but I don't feel connected with you". Don't be afraid, no good therapist can be pissed off by this. This moment of truth may trigger something... If it does not you just need anotehr T. But keep trying. There is ALWAYS a reason. It is well hidden and defended, probably. But it is there.

The best of luck