How is this unsolicited? Thats how a discussion works - one person talks, another person listens to what the first person says, processes it, thinks about it, sees if they have ever experienced anything similar that might relate to it or that the first person might possibly find relatable, formulates a careful, caring response - then the first person just shoots it down? i think there is a definition for this. Along the lines of abusive. Demeaning and disregarding the other persons response.