I think he's up for anything as long as I initiate it.

Yes, it sounds crazy, but he wouldn't have refused sex with me. He'd actually be glad that I initiated. But, earlier, when I was thinking about doing that, he was fast asleep! One beer and he passed out on the couch. So nothing happened.

I guess I just have a really passive man. If I can just learn to be the aggressor, we would be ok. Feeling sad and sorry for myself because he won't initiate is not getting me anywhere. This is so difficult!