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Old Jan 04, 2016, 05:25 AM
delicate grass delicate grass is offline
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Originally Posted by ChipperMonkey View Post

I honestly think that all of these labels just create distance between people instead of bringing everyone together. That is, it may bring those with the same label together, but overall labeling only serves to put distance between said groups. We need to treat people as individuals and not as a label.
Exactly, the only use of labels that I can see is put out a framework of what you want and should only be in reference to a person you have some sort of relationship with. If I for example, I am into dating multiple people I would say I am poly from the start as it is something that sets some boundaries and can avoid awkward situations(are we together or casual?etc) But otherwise, I think you are what you are and if a label helps you define yourself do it, but shouldn't be the case for everyone.

Personally, I came to terms with being gay quite recently. After dating a guy for 6 years and being super frustrated over my lack of sexual desire, I started dating women and it somehow worked.

In the beginning I was really scared as well to have any sort of affectionate behavior in public, cause I had bad experience from people harassing me for that. But after a year of being in a healthy relationship, I really don't care anymore what people would say. I am not talking about making out in public but nice signs of affection like holding hands or a quick kiss. I am in love, and we are really cute together, and if people can't appreciate this, then probably they are bitter over their own relationships. It always makes me smile when people hold hands or show any signs of affection, no matter if they are young or really old. It is somehow refreshing and gives me hope...
Thanks for this!
ChipperMonkey