In my honest opinion:
Nobody has the right to claim anybody for themselves.
Nobody owns another person.
Each person is a free agent to come and go.

People get angry because they fear that if people, places, things, or situations don't go their way, they will not feel okay.
So whenever they don't feel okay, they will blame people, places, things or situations for their feelings.
When in fact, it is themselves to blame for not knowing how to cope with not feeling okay.

Ultimately we are responsible for our own thoughts and actions; not anybody elses.
We are the ones who have to learn how to cope with our our fears.
It is our fears, not other people, places, things or situations, that causes all our problems.

People who are abusive are fearful people who do not know how to cope with their fears.
Basically, they are scared. Their own thoughts have scared them. They have scared themselves and are blaming others for it.