Military disability....you earned it yourself by putting your OWN life on the line. Your mother isn't entitled to any more than you are you feel like sharing with her.

My parents didn't have the money we had so we always included them in our vacations. Helped when needed then things changed & mom ended up helping us out. You don't owe your mom anything. From my experience many times poor is because they aren't financially responsible & squander the money they do get rather than use it wisely. I married A guy like that. I left..I budget everything now that I am free from him....but I needed him to be financially responsible when my depression got bad....he had no idea how....most irritating time of my life