My dear. My sweet heart. I wish I could tell you something nice but out of my own experience, it gets worse than getting better.

I've been in three years relationship, he has two kids, and the daughter is always the issue. She's 10 now! The problem is my boyfriend, he doesn't know to put boundaries between himself and the daughter. She acts like a girlfriend. I mean it. Some stuff is disgusting! and she wins always. I don't get Xmas gifts while she gets lots of overly expensive gifts. Even his son doesn't get anything.

I generally love kids and I think she's a good kid, but it's frustrating. You want to have your own family. I always feel outsider, no matter how much love I give them.

I'm in the process of wanting to get out ASAP too. We broke up many times 2015. The whole year was bad! His kids are his priorities and that's it. Besides, they usually carry lots of guilt feelings.

I can go on and on and telling you what you experience will get even worse but at the end it's you who has to deal with your situation and decide.

I'm 42 and I want to have kids of myself. I don't mind he has kids. It was difficult at the beginning for me but now I love the kids. However, my relationship is really bad with my boyfriend. He disrespects me and if I say anything, I'm a bad person, because I said something in front of his kids!
He can disrespect me and say all **** to me and yell at me in front of them. He can order them what to do, but if I tell his kids to pick up a dish, it would be a huge fight!

So many people told me couple of years ago when problems starts, to get out. I didn't listen. Now, I have to rescue myself from this toxic relationship and it's not easy.

Just be kind to yourself and get out. You can make a good plan and get out slowly. You will find another love, even better than this one.

He has a huge baggage., specially that you don't want to deal with kids. They will be there forever!

Your comfort and happiness are very important.

with love
marjan