I hope i wasnt saying to be realistic. I remember at least one time with current t i was extremely worried about his return from a conference. I think i googled ancestors he didnt even know he had! Okay slight exaggeration. But - the important thing is - not the ts action or inaction. It is the clients feeling - really scaring the pants off yourself - and how that is resolved with the t. Imo. So that the next time, the t doesnt have that "power", and the client doesnt have to try to control the t, or take that power from the t. I really dont like when someone tries to constrict my actions because of their "fear".