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Originally Posted by ChipperMonkey
You will always come second. Can you handle this? No worries if you can't, as this dynamic isn't for everyone. I know I couldn't handle always coming in second. (Again, where more of the "selfish" putdowns come in....but hey, its my life and I can live it however I choose, right?)
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Self-care can look like selfishness from the outside!!! I did have to come to terms with the coming second thing earlier in the relationship. It was difficult for me but I think I dealt with it well. Of course it's becoming more of a day-to-day issue as he gets custody of the kids but the concept at least is something I accept and am ok with.