Thanks for your input Yes she has enough money for food and I'm pretty sure she can pay all of her bills. I gave her enough money to pay off all her recently acquired debts!! My mom does not have much knowledge on mental health issues I don't think she really understands me. Ive always considered us to have a close relationship but I'm really just starting to realize how overbearing she has been my ENTIRE life. I realize I haven't been able to truly express my opinion with her when there are disagreements. She puts her foot down and shuts me down always. she wants to know what all my mail is. Everyday she would ask me what time i go to work and yell at me to hurry up. And tell me most people would be glad to have their parents help them be on time blah blah blah. Im very independent so this bothers me. One time she was getting rid of her bed and decided to give it to me and went in my room when i was at work to put the bed in there and clean up! i was so mad!! Im currently living with her but ill be moving by the end of this month
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Originally Posted by JustJenny
I am sorry to hear you are going through this. What she is doing is definitely not right. It is hard to deal with such a person who is convinced that other people are owing them something. Unfortunately, this is pretty common. Your post reminded me of this one:
http://forums.psychcentral.com/relat...bed-words.html
And there were much more threads about mother problems over the last couple of weeks.
You were approved for disability and that indicates that you have or have had some health issues. Why isn't she supportive of you? And why isn't she happy that you got approved? (Great news btw!)
You should not blame yourself for these problems you are having in this relationship. Does she have enough money to pay the bills and buy the necessities? If she is starving then you should indeed help her more, but it doesn't sound like this is the case.
Me and my mother we too have a strange relationship. It has nothing to do with money but she tends to be too involved in my life. We were having frequent fights and that would always bring me down. My solution (at least for now) was to limit the phone calls with her down to 1-2 a week and keep it short. I still feel bad about the quality of our relationship, but at least we are not fighting. That's my suggestion - distance yourself a little and don't talk to her too much. |