Am I being emotionally abused or over reacting?*

Me and my boyfriend have been together for 10 years we have 2 children,* our relationship has never been "perfect"* but we were happy.* However recently in the past year or so he's changed so much He constantly puts me down on my appearance (I'm a stay at home mum so rarely wear makeup or other other than jeans or tracksuits) he's started making comments on my weight & post pregnancy body.**
He will search for fitness pages & look at all of the girls and suggest I need to join a gym.*It's really making me self conscious about myself.
He makes comments on how stupid I've become since not working, he will do daft little quizzes and if I get something wrong he laughs & says you need to go back to school.
Whenever I say how tierd I am he will always 1 up me and then say well I actually work not sit around playing with the kids.
He will say that I need to get out more with my friends but when I do manage a day or night out he will moan & constantly message me asking how long I'll be.**
His drinking has got out of Control & he's recently started attacking me, he will provoke me & wind me up until I push him away and then he will retaliate "in self defence" Then will call me all the names under the sun & that I'm crazy.
He tells his friends that I don't allow him out on boys nights out because I'm controlling when in fact it's because he gets into such a state I'm terrified of the consequences to him or the after blows if we argue.*
He tells me that all of his friends hate me,* but when we go out together I get along with them all & they actually seem happy to me and we all have a laugh.*
He makes me question everything I do or say, second guessing myself constantly. If I reply to him he will say I've replied in a sarcastic way or shouting when I'm just speaking normally.*
When it comes to our sexual relationship it's virtually non existing unless he decides and when it does happen it's all about him. He doesn't cuddle me unless he feels like it if I try to cuddle up to him he won't touch me so it's awkward.

I honestly don't what's happened to us,* I just want to feel happy again but I'm beginning to think it's never going to happen.* I don't have family to turn to and I feel isolated in the house with no friends

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