Yeah, I did think I could be a "cool Aunt" more than a parental type figure, but I think that was naive. It will definitely be his job to correct the kids if they screw up something big, but like he said, "If you never tell them 'no' or discipline them, that won't work. Are you never going to spend time alone with them without me?" One of my big problems was I felt that I couldn't say "no" or say "stop doing that" etc without him jumping all over me but we did have a long talk. I'm trying hard not to expect everyone to adjust really quickly but then want my own time for that - it's going to take everyone time. Talking to him helped me a lot, I never knew he thought of me and his kids as "a family." Because he had never said that, I had no idea. It changed something inside of me to know he thinks of us all like that. He was good about keeping us all separate in the beginning, which I think was appropriate, but I like that he doesn't see me as separate in his life from the kids anymore.

I hope I'm as confident as I seem to sound! Lol. Luckily I'm seeing my T more often so she's helping a lot.