Thanks folks I really appreciate hearing from you. I think I feel that what I experienced wasn't abuse as it wasn't sexual and it was only physical due to medical procedures. No they didn't meet my needs but it wasn't on purpose. I work with severly abused children daily and don't feel I come close to what they have experienced and find it very difficult when she says that mine was just as bad and probably worse. Like stopdog said I must have over stated myself, but actually I didn't! Aargh. It is so confusing and trying to hold this and knowing I need to hold it for another week whilst going to work dealing with stuff at work is very difficult. Also what do I say to her. She knows I don't believe her. What a minefield.