I relate to feeling like a fraud when it comes to suffering and abuse. No one has told me I have been subjected to extreme abuse I (and it's not my case), but there have been some issues in my family and even in my therapy and, even though when I think about it I know that certain things that were done to me (or not) weren't okay at all, I also feel like I'm lying to myself or others and exaggerating. I don't feel like I'm doing it to feel special, but maybe as an excuse. On the other hand, for me it's important that my thinking is very clear about those things, even though emotionally I get confused sometimes. It's like an anchor keeping me grounded.

I'm sorry your therapist seems to have gone faster than you maybe felt you could go. Personally I believe a therapist shouldn't do that, even though I know it can be frustrating to go over the same issues with little or no apparent progress. But it is a big part of the job. There are many types of abuse and there is no need to compare to others - but at the same time I strongly believe in going at your own pace and in the direction that feels the most healing for you.

Do you intend to tell your therapist about how you experienced her remark? She may know you don't believe it was abuse but she may not know all the nuances of what it's like for you to hear her say that.