Lol....after a 33 year bad marriage....I justified the red flags I saw rather than really seriously dealing with them....just make sure if you have issues to resolve them BEFORE the wedding as they continue to haunt otherwise.

Back in those days Asperger's wasn't even known about so I had no idea what I was getting involved with, just knew something wasn't right but got talked out of listening to my gut feeling then I talked myself out of what I realized.

Realized love doesn't grow where there is no respect.

Being willing & able to do whatever is necessary for a marriage to be successful....it's not his or her job....it's equal working together.

Financial issues & debt are the #1 destroyer of a marriage other than infidelity....if you work together toward goals rather than trying to buy things on credit because you (either H or W) have to have them NOW, there will be less problems to deal with.

Also NEVER hide anything from each other & don't do anything you would feel the need to hide. Open & honest communication is critical for a successful marriage.....along with being emotionally connected not just by sex...important to have an intimate connection on all levels.

All things I couldn't put a name to but were just a feeling they were missing because I grew up with parents who were the same as my H & I kept promising myself I didn't want a marriage like theirs...I just didn't know what it was about their marriage I saw was the problem. Not until I got away from it all & around normal relationships to observe was I able to put the words to what I had been experiencing.

There is NOTHING wrong with disagreeing or having different opinions...it's how it's handled that is critical to the success or failure of a marriage....so much for the words of wisdom from someone who learned from my mistakes & not in a hurry to get remarried unless really the RIGHT, truly compatible person comes along if ever...I have never been happier though it would be nice to have someone to share life with