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Originally Posted by Turtleboy
maybe you just had a bad T or therapy wasn't for you, or the style of therapy, personally i feel if i had been through that it would have coloured my view of therapy, gaslighting? i'm not sure about that, but i wasn't there so i don't know, i do think making assumptions about other members or canvassing all of therapy over a bad experience is not healthy, but i do believe T's are just regular people with a particular degree, they are prone to flaws like the rest of us, if this T has emotionally damaged you, why not file a grievance?
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My T was not what would typically be considered a "bad T". And that for me is the point. Part of what went wrong was systemic in nature. She certainly was incompetent and emotionally unstable but can't be cleanly separated out as a bad apple. Doesn't fit the profile, which seems to assume extremes of behavior and of transgressions. Which is one reason filing a grievance could end badly (but I still might).
And the systemic problems were reinforced by my experience searching for another T. I saw enough of them to see patterns.
I get where you are coming from, but what you say could be taken as a defense of the biz and an assumption that the client is the problem. And that is one of the systemic issues I faced. I got the blame for things going badly wrong. It's a fact. Not just by main T but others. As for gaslighting, it was overt and unequivocal.
Also if T's are just regular people, doesn't the whole thing collapse on itself? How can a client in a vulnerable position trust their deepest issues to a regular person who is subject to the intrusion of their own needs and impulses?