My mother and I have a fairly similar way of dealing with things it seems like.
she is fairly negative critical person....and if I am asked to do something or forget to do so. Or do not do it the way she wants..

or just tell I am sorry i can't do that....

I get a fairly similar reaction. My mother personally seems like a very narassitic type of person. She will often turn a situation around and have it be entirely about herself and how it effects her.

Even when it orignally was me trying to confide in her about issues with my own mental health. With her basically making comments along the lines of " do you think you are the only one that has issues or stress in your life?"

And then will basically try to sit there and talk to me like i am the equivelant of a therpaist for her.

and she will complain about things that I do that she does not like towards, me not realizing or just caring that what she is saying at the time.....comes off as being hurtful for me to hear. Cause she is venting to me about things I do that she does not like toward me. Instead of talking to someone else so as to keep my feelings on the matter in mind.