I don't think I went so far as doing that per say in a DBT format of saying so "I radically accepted that I would not be able to ever fully gain approval of my mother through her eyes" cause she wants me to be extension of herself as her child not my own adult.

I do not like the fact that she views me in this kind of way and I make it clear that I don't approve of this type of behaviour but I accept that this just is how the way things are. Between the two of us.