This was my first year telling my family that I was not going to be invovled in any of the holiday events. It was hard at first....they all thought I was being selfish... which I was but it was for my own mental health. The holidays came and went.... I stayed home alone on Christmas and it was the greatest feeling ever! ..... and my family does not hate me sooooooo maybe it will work for you? I did explain why I needed space... that I just do not feel like celebrating...and wanted to stay home. Worked out this year... not sure if it will work again next year but I did tell them I do not celebrate anymore.... so who knows. Very free feeling! I did go to a friends holiday party..... afterwards.... wish I didnt go to that either... lol.